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How does it feel to drown

One of my friends recently asked me about “that time I almost drowned in Thailand” and this is my response. It happened more than a year ago in Thailand when we had More »

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Fertility Research – IVF and IVA

You never know what a journey like this will do to you psychologically and financially…until you are over your head in it. Cheaper IVF Dr Thabo Matsaseng He has developed a novel More »

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TomTom watch

My husband bought the new TomTom Runner Cardio watch for himself and of course when I saw the functionality I demanded one for myself. I took it for a test drive on More »

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Resolutions

My resolutions I am working on. Don’t give me grief. How are your resolutions holding up? Get fit and drop weight: I have gone to gym regularly. I have even done a More »

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Failure 1 – Hyper-stimulation and only 1 follicle on day 5

Today we abandoned this cycle. The FS found only 1 follicle on day 5 of hyper-stimulation. Next month we get to do this all over again with a different dosage. I am More »

How does it feel to drown

Goddess

One of my friends recently asked me about “that time I almost drowned in Thailand” and this is my response.

It happened more than a year ago in Thailand when we had to swim to a rope ladder to get to Maya Beach. The water was choppy and the weather was horrible. The boats didn’t want to enter through the main beach and all parked off about 30m from this rope ladder. We jumped in the water and 10m in I got caught in a current and started panicking. Then I became aware of the waves and where I was – the middle of nowhere. I started to swallow water. I tried to swim back to the boat but I couldn’t. I yelled for help and for the nearest boat to through a lifevest – the owner refused. I was so tired and only halfway back to the nearest boat. I turned on my back just to rest a bit. My lungs were burning, my arms and legs tired. My husband finally spotted me and dragged me to the nearest boat.

I clung to the side of the boat and got dunked as the boats were rocked and smashed against each other. I hung on for what felt like hours with just the tips of my fingers gulping water. Tears were streaming down my face. My husband pulled me onto the boat and to this day I don’t know how he pulled me out.

I sat on the boat shaking like a leaf. I had gone into complete shock. A french woman handed me a bottle of water and I couldn’t open my hands to take it. My hands stayed in a clenched state. I fed the fishes with whatever came out while I clung to a pole.

I was never that happy to get off the sea in my whole life. To this day I still get nightmares and wake up struggling for air. I also am much more careful of going into the sea and cannot stand going underwater.

Fertility Research – IVF and IVA

Infertility

You never know what a journey like this will do to you psychologically and financially…until you are over your head in it.

TomTom watch

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My husband bought the new TomTom Runner Cardio watch for himself and of course when I saw the functionality I demanded one for myself.

I took it for a test drive on a 10km walk last weekend and this is what happened:

  • I now wear a huge watch that may leave tan lines
  • The watch told me how fast I walked, elevation, kept track of my heart and plotted a map of the route
  • Then it uploaded the data to my phone that uploaded it to TomTom and in the end I got Discovery Vitality points for it

Isn’t that just awesome?

Resolutions

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My resolutions I am working on. Don’t give me grief. How are your resolutions holding up?

Get fit and drop weight:

I have gone to gym regularly. I have even done a parkrun (5km) and an 11km as well as walked the Rietfontein Nature Reserve route 3 times.

Doing a Pinterest project a week:

…well, umm I have not had a moment really to get to it, but I have 2 other exciting products that I am currently working on that is even better than a Pinterest project – can’t tell you yet.

Failure 1 – Hyper-stimulation and only 1 follicle on day 5

Infertility

Today we abandoned this cycle. The FS found only 1 follicle on day 5 of hyper-stimulation. Next month we get to do this all over again with a different dosage.

I am so heartbroken.

Challenge on – get eggs

Infertility

Today was my first day of injections – in my tummy…and I cried like a big baby because I’m scared of needles. I went in with the mindset that it can’t be worse than having 8 viles of blood drawn from my arm while I can hear, smell and see my own blood. The minute that alcohol swab touched my skin I knew that needle was coming for me and big tears just formed in my eyes and rolled down my cheeks in watery lines (thank goodness for waterproof mascara).

The needle wasn’t big, it was a skinny short thing – but the idea of a needle in my tummy…

The next 4 days my husband will be injecting me. I know it will give him great pleasure to finally get a chance to inject someone with something.

I’ve heard of other women (and my surrogate) injecting themselves. These women have balls of steel.

Why am I getting injections you ask

The meds are hyper-stimulating the growth of follicles so we can have the best chance possible to harvest a bit of eggs. On Tuesday they will be checking what stage everything is in and give more injections (increasing to 2 per day) then around the 19th – harvest. Hopefully some good ones can be fertilised and frozen and then thawed for IVF with our surrogate.

Good customer service

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Yesterday I filled up my car to take advantage of the much lower petrol price.  The service station attendant was a real ray of sunshine with a big smile. I could not help myself to ask him if he was working the holidays and where he was from.

Simon worked the whole December except the public holidays. He was all chirpy about quiet Joburg. He also told me that he visits his family back in Malawi only in June and that it takes him 2 days by bus. Apparently bus ticket prices soar for December and that is why he goes in June.

I was so impressed by Simon and his upbeat attitude I actually emailed Engen H/O to let them know how he made my day.

This year, I think I am going to try pay more compliments than complaints.

The road to having our own baby with a surrogate

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It is amazing to know that there are people out there that would offer to carry a baby for strangers – just because they want someone else to experience the joy of parenthood. We are so lucky to have found “our person”.

My hubby and I drove up to her on the other side of the country to take her and her gorgeous 2 daughters out for an ice cream. We ended up staying for 3 hours with this amazing family. I know it sounds crazy that I wanted her kids to meet us, but there is a very important reason behind this – her kids gave her the go-ahead to do this and that makes them heroes in my eyes and they deserve to know who they are helping.

What is next?

We are still waiting for a court date (high court). At least our application went in just before the courts closed.

Tomorrow I start with my first injections (in my tummy if the rumours are true). Then Monday a scan and between the 17th and 19th of January hopefully a harvest of viable eggs. Then they get fertilised and frozen.

When the application is approved our surrogate will start with injecting herself in the abdomen to ready her womb and then some of the frozen embryos will be thawed and implanted via IVF.

What I really hope for… twins. I don’t think 1 kid is enough. I seriously doubt 1 kid will be able to keep up with me.

Silver Birch Emporium

Silver Birch Emporium

Today I’m going to shamelessly punt a shop in Rosebank – because when a store is owner-run, then great things happen.

Silver Birch Emporium in Rosebank Mall is tucked in a quiet corner on the top floor near Mr Price and Edgars and is owned by Shirley. She is also the creator and designer of the jewellery.

What can you find in Silver Birch Emporium

Beautifully crafted jewellery with silver, gold, pearls, Swarovski crystals and other semi-precious stones. Innovative lockets to keep photos or even crystals in, rings in unusual shapes – and rings with lovely messages on. Pendants, chains and strings of pearls that will make you go ga-ga.

The most important thing you need to know is that you can ask the owner to create a custom piece of jewellery just for you or that special someone.

Connect with Silver Birch Emporium

 

Surrogacy in South Africa

Infertility

We are currently waiting for a court date for our surrogacy application – hopefully this will happen early January as with my next cycle I will be going for my first harvesting and hopefully freezing of embryos.

  • Cape Town woman challenges SA’s surrogacy laws
    I am going to quote a line that made me see red. Clearly Ms Dlamini doesn’t know the heartache people in “our position” feel. Adoption should not be the only option other than not having children.
    “Plus, Ms Dlamini said that adoption was an option for the woman and others in her position.

My heart goes out to this woman.

I must admit that South Africa’s laws makes you feel like a criminal just for wanting a kid of your own – when for some medical reason, you can’t. In my case it is severe Endometrioses that was NEVER diagnosed by gynaecologists – my last being a DR in Fourways. I will never go to another gynaecologist, they are overpriced and totally clueless and just guessing. I will be getting papsmears done at a normal house doctor – you heard me… someone that doesn’t “specialize” and know nothing.

To do a high court application we had to indicate what we own, earn, get letters of recommendation from people – and in for a R40,000 just for the court application and agreement. Then we are in for R60,000 a try.